I was recently talking with a girlfriend who is a very successful companion in Boston, Massachusetts. For the sake of privacy, I shall refer to her as Brit. Brit ranks among the top 100 providers on TER, nationwide.

She has an attractive website and fantastic photos. What’s more, she’s a kind person with a heart of gold – you can tell in the first few minutes of speaking to her. She knows exactly what kind of man she likes. She even uses Google Analytics to track statistics on her website. She is a true professional, independent companion. Yet, she voiced some concerns and frustrations about the type of clientele attracted to her lately. She has been questioning what she might do differently. She will be joining the Club at City Girls. But then we got to talking about the gentlemen in her life and the types that she is attracted to. Together, we came up with many traits that she believes characterize a good client. Here’s what we discussed:

A gentleman should abide by a companion’s method of contact

Brit is very particular about how a client contacts her. She will not hesitate to disregard an inquiry from a potential, new client if he sends her a cryptic email instead of completing her contact form. She feels strongly about her preferred method because she is more of a dinner date/overnight type companion and is very selective. Yet, she struggles with this rigidity, wondering if she’s doing the right thing or selling herself short. Recently, she responded to a gentleman who contacted her by email. Hesitant to make the exception, she met the new client anyway. Reportedly, he was one of the best looking men she has ever met. Ladies, above all, listen to your intuition!

He should appreciate you and desire to see you beyond one date

I think we all know when we are being disrespected or unappreciated. As an independent escort, just because you are a professional entertainer does not mean that you must compromise your ethics or values for the sake of a date. Brit believes that because she has upheld her standards she has attracted a higher quality clientele. Now, one of her midterm goals is to increase the number of repeat clients whom she sees so that she can devote more quality time on a longer term basis. In Brit’s case, less is more.

Look for chemistry and harmony

Brit identified chemistry as one of the most important requirements when deciding whether or not to see a client. She emphasized that she must like her clients. And by ‘like’ she meant getting along well with them, sharing similar interests and being able to sustain a conversation. She looks for these features in a new client and feels that in doing so she is more likely to establish a longer term relationship. This also means that Brit turns down potential suitors. As a result, Brit has slowly transformed her business into one abundant with travel to exotic destinations, upscale dinner dates and really, pure enjoyment of life. Way to go, girl!

A man should pay attention to payment protocol and avoid negotiating

If ever a guy wants to ruffle the feminine feathers of a companion, all he has to do is insult her by discussing donations or the forbidden – negotiate. In Brit’s case, she will immediately end a date and cease from ever communicating with the man again. Stick to your guns, chicas!

A gentleman practices good hygiene that way you do

What woman finds attractive the male who shows up stale or stinky, not just freshly showered with minty breath and neatly shaven? It doesn’t take long for a man to groom himself and he most certainly takes less time than us girls. So what does it say about the man who smells from the day’s stress? It says a lot, my friends. We at City Girls believe that you shouldn’t compromise on such a standard because an ill-kept man is also one who does not respect you enough to take a 10-minute shower.

Your date should understand screening and adhere to your boundaries

At City Girls, an escort does not have to worry about screening because clients are pre-screened before she sees them. However, an independent escort such as Brit bears the burden of screening clients herself if she is to look out for her safety (another reason why she is joining City Girls). Assume your client has passed your screening process. Now, you must ensure that he understands and respects your boundaries. I talked about this in a previous article. Go here to find out more.

Question the legitimacy of gift-giving

I mean no offense to any gentleman who is wishes to embellish his date with the generosity of a gift! What girl will not be flattered? However, in the best interest of the girls, I am talking about the man who gives a gift laced with ulterior motives because he desires to manipulate her into doing something that she wouldn’t otherwise do. Brit talked about this. In fact, she does not accept gifts at all. I personally find that to be a bit extreme but it works for her. She prefers to avoid any complications, whatsoever. On the other hand, a gift given in all sincerity but denied by its recipient can offend the giver. It’s all about paying attention to the subliminal messages during your date.

What’s the formula for defining the perfect date?

Well, there is none. Wait! Before you get disappointed, re-read this article and others linked within. You will begin to see a pattern that emerges based upon your personal style and goals. Yes, escorting is a real job and therefore should have pre-defined goals. As your goals take shape, so will the quality of your clientele improve. These are words coming from Brit, a lady who has definitely carved her niche at the top in the world of independent escorting.